Falling Out of Love

 

“I just fell out of love,” Emily said—she was determined to follow through with her divorce from Jake.

“How do you just fall out of love?” Jake responded with a look of defeat written all over his face. “I’ve tried and tried. I’ve given you everything, but all you ever focused on was your career.”

“Well I wouldn’t have to focus on my career if you were more motivated,” Emily said, with more than a hint of disdain in her voice.

I wish I could say that conversations like this are rare. Sadly, many relationships are built on circumstance, not commitment. Meaning, if a marriage works for both parties, they stay together. But if not, those marriage vows are worth little more than the paper they are written on.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. Many of your partner’s frustrating traits are just part of how God wired this person. They are also related to the very things that you drew you to him or her.

We’re all born with a

5 Surprising Reasons Why You Have a Hard Time Saying No

Saying No!

Do you feel like you are causing hurt, pain and inconvenience to others when you tell them ‘no’?

People pleasing can seem like it is a positive trait, but when you consistently put others’ needs over your own, you become a source of guilt and anxiety to yourself. The discomfort these emotions create can be debilitating.

Many people-pleasers know they need to set limits with others, but can’t ever seem to find a way to say no—the worry over how they will be perceived or guilt over hurting someone’s feelings keeps them saying ‘yes’ when they really long to say ‘no.’

How to Get Emotional Healing

 

By Kris Reece, Counselor, Coach, Speaker

If you were seriously injured, would you go to the hospital? Of course you would. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to know that pain is a sign that something is wrong.  But what about emotional healing?

Would it would be safe to say that if you had emotional pain, you would seek help, right?

Many don’t. Instead of seeking help to relieve themselves of their emotional pain, many people hide behind a mask. Some hide behind a mask of bitterness, others a mask of perfection, while some choose to mask of fake happiness.

Why do so many of us choose the equivalent of putting a Band-Aid on a slit wrist?

How to End a Relationship with a Narcissist

By Kris Reece, Counselor, Coach, Speaker

Narcissists are notorious for blaming others, so they rarely assume responsibility for their own actions. They have little to no empathy for others. They rarely see themselves as part of the problem and will only do enough work to get things functioning in their favor again (staying out of jail, keeping you in the relationship). But their actions are not genuine.

Many clients come to me wanting to know how to get a narcissist to change.

The better question to ask is:

Why Do Others Always Take Advantage of Me?

 

 

By Kris Reece, Counselor, Coach, Speaker

You’re a giving person. You like to see people happy, and you like it when they are happy with you. This is natural, isn’t it?

Yes, absolutely. There are many natural givers in this world—people with temperaments that love to give and serve others. Giving is an admirable, Christ-like quality—remember, it is more blessed to give than it is to receive.

But sometimes giving hurts. No one likes to feel taken advantage of. You may even vacillate between loving and hating this quality of yourself: If it’s so admirable, why do I feel like a doormat?

Was Your Mother Helpful or Hurtful?

By Kris Reece, Counselor, Coach, Speaker

What do you do when the person who is supposed to be your greatest encourager and comforter is actually the very source of your pain?

Many hurting women sit in my office with the question:  “How do you deal with a controlling and manipulative mother?”

Children all over the U.S. celebrated Mother’s Day last week, with extravagant gifts, breakfast in bed and dinners out to show their appreciation for all that their mothers do.

But for some adult and young children, the thought of celebrating Mother’s Day brings anxiety and anger.