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How to Co-Parent when Your Co-Parent Won’t Cooperate

By Kris Reece, Counselor, Author, Speaker

 

From the moment you and your spouse said “I don’t” to your marriage, your children became confused, sad, angry and perhaps even traumatized.

Why then do so many divorced parents spend their time and energy on getting back at their ex and “sticking it to them” as best they can? This only magnifies the impact on these young wounded souls.

In an ideal situation—and yes, they do exist—the two parents agree to put aside all anger and animosity towards each other. They prioritize the best interest of the children. This cooperation and compromise takes an undesirable situation and makes it workable.

Now, let’s look at what co-parenting is not:

Why Doesn’t He Love Me?


By Kris Reece

Eddie was a charismatic, outgoing, fun-loving guy. Sheila fell in love with him from the moment he asked her to pass the sugar in the break room.

Sheila couldn’t believe that someone like Eddie would be interested in a shy girl like her. She was a bright young lady who was finishing up her law degree and had plans to move to New York for an opportunity with a large law firm. But the more time she spent with Eddie, the more she put off her plans.

“I was having so much fun. He was so good to me,” she said with tears running down her cheek.

6 Relationship Wreckers- How Many Do You Have?

By: Kris Reece, Author of Build a Beautiful Life Out of Broken Pieces

Unless you are glutton for punishment, you desire to have happy, healthy relationships. But often times after we have become comfortable in a relationship, we forget that everyone longs to be loved and appreciated—including the people we are in relationship with.

The following six traits are the most common symptoms of disconnection. How many do you either display or receive in your relationships?

This Too Shall Pass

Did you know millions of American’s suffer from depression every year?

We all suffer from depression from time to time. If you are battling feelings of grief and loss, depression can be debilitating.

I sit here today with such a tremendous pain in my heavy heart as I mourn the loss of my beloved dog Parker. Parker was a sweet little boy who would steal your heart if you gave him the chance to stop barking at you. You see he didn’t bark because he was mean. No, there wasn’t a mean bone in his body. He barked because he was afraid you were going to hurt the only person in this world who ever gave him a chance. Parker had been tossed from home to home more times than I could count. By the time he got to me he was a hot mess. Separation anxiety, excessive barking and marking were just a few of his issues, but the love he had far outweighed any trouble he was. He would look at you with eyes of love that just screamed “I am so thankful for you”.

How Does God Want Us to Fight Against Evil People or Situations?

By Kris Reece – Author of Build a Beautiful Life Out of Broken Pieces

Raise your hand if have ever had to suffer the consequences of your actions—can you give an example or two here, such as “you waited until the last minute to start a big presentation, and then flubbed your chance to make a good impression, for example”?

When your own actions bring results that are painful, you may you wish that you didn’t have to go through it, but knowing that you played a direct role in situation makes it more bearable.

But what happens when you suffer at the hand of someone else’s poor decision? This is what’s known as collateral damage—when the destruction of one thing causes harm elsewhere. It is being caught in the crossfire.

Dangers of Deciding While Mad (or any emotion)

By Kris Reece, Author of Build a Beautiful Life Out of Broken Pieces

You’ve heard people say things like “I just felt like it,” or, “ I feel like I should be doing…,” or, “ I don’t feel like doing…”. Perhaps you even say these phrases yourself. It’s common to put feelings in the driver’s seat when it’s time to make a decision. In fact, it happens for a very good reason: the fight or flight response—your innate ability to sense danger and respond.

In stressful situations, your decision to stay and fight or to flee is based upon a very strong emotion—fear. This instinctual response comes in handy when you are being chased by a lion or held up at gunpoint, but what happens when most of your life decisions are based upon emotions?

Yes, emotions are great indicators of how you feel about something. They can even be used to help guide your decision-making process. But emotions are fickle. Meaning, they can also be the very thing that lead you into traps and down paths that take years to recover from.

One of my least favorite sayings is “Everything happens for a reason.” It is completely not true.