signs of low self-esteem

Get out of theTrap-Identifying Signs of Low Self-Esteem

By Kris Reece, Counselor, Coach, Speaker

If I could wave a magic wand and cure everyone of one thing, it would be feelings of low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a contributing factor, if not the root problem, in most psychological disorders as well as in general feelings of dissatisfaction. It wrecks relationships, it hinders growth and it can be the number one stumbling block on the path to success, but are there signs of low self-esteem?

Possibly one of the most well known psychological problems is the “inferiority complex,” which popularized by Alred Adler.

There are many reasons why people perceive themselves as inferior to those around them, but the core issues involved are those of self worth and significance.

Many times, low self-esteem is the result of being put down by others or the experience of not measuring up in some way to those around them.

Signs of low self-esteem most commonly exhibit themselves in one of two ways:

How to Keep Moving Forward By Slowing Down

For many years, I was under the impression that God helps those who help themselves. I believed that if I wanted something done right, I had to be the one to do it.

Yes, I would pray that God would bless my plans, but I rarely let Him take the reins. If I did, it was only for a moment—whenever I didn’t see things moving forward fast enough, I took them right back. “Any action is better than no action” was my motto. Boy, did I have it backwards!

Then I learned to apply these 4 principles, and they helped me keep moving forward faster and farther than I ever got on my own:

Do Perfectionists Really Work Harder?

You’ve likely heard the phrase work smarter, not harder. Many perfectionists land more on the “work harder” side of that equation—since their standards are so high, they have to work harder than everyone else. That’s what they’d like you to believe, anyway—many times perfectionists only give the illusion of working hard.

Perfectionists have long been defined by their incredibly high standards. But behind the illusion of having it all together is exhaustion and fear.

I know, because I spent decades of my life as a perfectionist. Both in my own experience, and in the experiences of my clients who engage me as either their Christian counselor or certified transformation coach, I see three main things that perfectionists spend more of their time struggling with instead of being productive.

11 Ways to Start Preparing for a Better Life in 2017


11 Ways to Start Preparing for a Better Life in 2017

The new year is upon us and it’s a time where many will feel a sense of new beginnings, a chance for change and an opportunity for a better life. But many make the fatal mistake of setting goals on January 1 and thinking they’ll be successful by January 2. This delusion leads to many abandoned goals before the new year is even two weeks old.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Success in the new year can be yours, especially if you prepare properly. Here are 11 ways to start preparing for a better life this year:

15 Self Limiting Beliefs Christians Entertain Everyday


If you found out that your friend or neighbor was spreading lies about you, you would be furious, right? But the truth is you likely spend more time and energy trying to dispel lies that others tell than you do the lies you tell yourself.

That’s because these lies—which take the form of self-limiting beliefs—are hidden. They hide in the deepest crevices of your mind, and their one mission is to distort truth.

The most important thing to know about self-limiting beliefs is that they are lies. If you aren’t filled with joy, peace and hope, you are likely buying into a lie and the lie is likely coming from your own mind.

The good news is that the same mind that puts out that self-limiting belief has the power to change that belief.

In my business and in my life, I have found that the same common self-limiting beliefs show up again and again in people of all kinds of backgrounds and temperaments. I’ve listed the 15 most common self-limiting beliefs, and the truth you can use to destroy them.