How to Not Repeat Past Mistakes

How to Not Repeat Past Mistakes

We all know the pain of having made mistakes. We can be quite good at looking backwards and trying to determine where we went wrong. But it’s less common to be able to avoid making those same mistakes again in the future.

Why? Few of us have been taught the steps necessary to moving forward. So we stay stuck, continuing to suffer the consequences of past mistakes. As a result, we all too often find ourselves in the same boat all over again.

Take Virginia for example:

Fabulously Flawed

“Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect”  Matthew 5:48

Perfectionism is practically a positive word in our society, worn by many as a badge of honor. But much like magic weight loss pills, how can we know in our head that there’s no such thing, but in our heart believe it to be possible?

We know that no one is perfect. We know that no one can be perfect. So why do we strive so hard to attain this attribute?  Does it make us feel better about our other dysfunctions?  Or are we simply trying to distract ourselves from what would otherwise feel like emptiness?

Perfectionists have always fascinated me. I observe how they work so hard to give the appearance of having it all together–maybe it’s an obsessive amount of time in the gym, or multiple plastic surgeries.

Or perhaps it’s the insatiable need to show the world how “great” your family is: How little Timmy made high honor roll and hubby just made partner at the firm. Meanwhile, you’re praying that no one sees how insecure you feel or that anyone finds out about little Timmy’s issues and hubby’s “extra” drinking.


What’s My Temperament?

What’s My Temperament?

You’re familiar with personality tests, yes? They’re nearly impossible to get away from, whether they are humorous Facebook quizzes or bestselling books offering detailed strengths analysis. While they are fun to take and can be insightful, these assessments only tell you about your outward self.

That’s because your personality is the outward mask you wear – the persona that you share with the world. You may think, “I am a total introvert,” or, “I am type A.” While these statements may be true, they only give you a peek, and a small one at that, into your true nature.

What Are You Giving Your Power To?

Whatever season you are in in your life, there are thoughts and feelings that drive you daily.

Perhaps you are climbing the corporate ladder and stress is pounding at your door, perhaps you are a mother to 3 small children under the age of 6 and chaos seems to be the order of the day.  Or maybe you are sadly going through a very difficult time in your life, you’ve lost  your spouse through a divorce or your children don’t seem to be making the choices you hoped they would.

No matter what stage or season we go through in life our day begins and ends with thoughts.  Thoughts have power.  Those thoughts lead to feelings. Feelings lead to actions, and actions lead to consequences.   as you can see everything in your life begins with a thought.

many people are under the misconception that they have no control over their thoughts and while there is some merit to that, we do have control over what we do with the thoughts once they enter in.

Here are some choices as to what to do with thoughts:

Stop the Step-Family Denial, Stop the Stress

Have you ever known a person who refused to see the truth about himself? Who, instead of facing the truth and embracing change, ran from place to place or from person to person, trying to find assurance that he was “okay” and didn’t need to change?

Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft….  –Galatians 5:19-20

We may think we don’t have any relation to this scripture, but if we are not adapting in the face of change and adversity we are setting ourselves up for the potential ruling of the flesh.  We may not melt gold to make a statue to worship, but if we allow our flesh to behave the same way by denying our problems, we are taking part in a modern day ritual. 

Why and How to Stop Complaining (Or, Get Your “But” Out of the Way)

As believers and followers of Christ we know one thing: God operates on Faith.  Yet we use that term so loosely now that it has lost meaning, much like the word love–how can the same word be appropriate whether you say, “I love my husband” or “I love pizza”?

The key to understanding what faith truly is, is action.  We see in James 2:14 (NLT):  “What good is it, dear brothers and sisters, if you say you have faith but don’t show it by your actions? Can that kind of faith save anyone?”

Our actions show loud and clear what our faith is.  And our actions include our words. There is one word that I is the biggest faith killer of them all — the word “but”.