If you had all the confidence you needed, how would your life be different right now?
What would be different in your career?
How would your relationships change?
So many people could benefit from having more confidence. To help you find more of it, first let me start off by telling you what confidence is not! It’s not:
- Reliant upon your circumstances.
- A feeling
- An act
- A “fake it till you make it” type of thing
So what is confidence? Confidence can be described as a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. Does that describe you?
No matter who you are, what has happened to you, what you’ve done or where you are in life, you can build confidence that is unstoppable and unshakeable.
The Bible teaches us eight ways to build confidence, God’s way.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
When you compare your accomplishments with someone else’s, you’re only seeing the surface of their lives, not the full reality. Even if they are truly prospering, it’s irrelevant, as your purpose and life are unique.
There’s nothing wrong with letting others motivate you—at one time the four-minute mile seemed impossible, but once Roger Bannister achieved it in 1954, many more did after that. But keep your focus on your purpose in this life. You can’t run someone else’s race.
2. Raise your standard.
You will feel likely feel uncomfortable and even MORE insecure initially, because you will feel like an even smaller fish in a bigger pond. But I want to challenge you to be OK with being uncomfortable for a bit. As you begin to grow and to learn new skills and habits, you will begin to apply them. When you do, you will begin to see the benefits and THAT’s when your confidence will begin to grow.
3. Develop Self Discipline
Your self-confidence is directly proportionate to your level of self-discipline. And if you struggle with self-discipline, you likely also struggle with self-confidence. Every time you fail to listen and take action on what you know you should, you lose confidence in yourself and your abilities. This lack of confidence continues to spiral downward as you flounder to control yourself.
Be fully committed to doing whatever you can to build your success every single day, and to accepting full responsibility for your life. If it’s uncomfortable, you’re probably on the right track. Don’t hesitate to ask for help if you’re struggling with procrastination or low motivation.
4. Find your inner conqueror.
Romans 8:37 says, “In all these things, we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” This scripture means more as in greater, superior, higher, better! Is this how you see yourself?
I’m not referring to an arrogant ego; I am talking about knowing who you are in Christ. Stop looking at yourself as a struggler, or through the lens of your past experiences. See yourself as God sees you—superior. And others will see what you see.
5. Exchange the lies for truth.
Instead, listen to the voice of truth. What does God say about you? What does He say about your situation?
If your inner words don’t line up with God’s Word, you need to challenge your words. Do as 2 Corinthians 10:5 tell you to do: “We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.” Otherwise those thoughts will have free reign in your life.
6. Make mistakes.
If you need encouragement to make mistakes, you’ll find it in Isaiah 41:10: “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
7. Stop focusing on your lack of confidence.
Stop focusing on not having confidence. All you’re doing is reinforcing the fact that you don’t have it. Instead, help others feel good about themselves, as 1 Thes 5:11 tells us to do: “ So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.”
8. Be yourself.
Many women will admit, “I don’t even know who I am or what I want.” If this is you, your first task is to find your own identity. Get to know you!
Confidence can come when others are drawn to you. But if you’re not being your true self, you are left having to keep up a façade or risk losing the relationship. That takes too much energy.
Don’t wait for confidence before you take action, build confidence by taking action.
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