5 Undeniable Traits of Easily Offended People You Need to Watch Out For
Have you ever encountered that person that made you feel like you had to walk on eggshells?
What do you do?
Overtly and covertly.
Overtly offended people come out of their face right away and outwardly express their issues with you. They have no problem telling you how you’ve ticked them off or hurt them (once again) and may even be aggressive to the point of intimidation.
Covertly offended people, on the other hand, are less “in your face” than their overt counterparts. They believe this makes them more of a ‘good person’ but covertly offended people are actually more dangerous than overtly offended people.
Whether you’re dealing with an obnoxious overt or a cunning covert, what is it about these people that makes them so easily offended and difficult to be around.- and should I just write them off?
In today’s video, we will talk about 5 undeniable traits of easily offended people you need to watch out for and to see if they are healthy to be in a relationship with.
#1 – Insecurity.
Easily offended people often find themselves looking for validation from others and have a hard time brushing off little things and that’s based on their insecurity.
Insecure people struggle with self-worth and as a result, they are constantly scanning their surroundings for validation to feel good. and that’s where you come in.|
Insecure people typically experienced an insecure attachment early in their life.
They never learned how to interact with the world in a safe manner.
#2 – Self-centered (maybe even narcissistic)
People who are easily offended are self-centered and self-focused. They are on high alert for anything that threatens their fragile self-image.
Once again, this is a protective mechanism that guards them against facing reality.
#3 – Impatient and angry
Have you ever noticed how easily triggered offended people can be?
At any given moment, something you say could set them off.
They’re like delicate time bombs that explode with the slightest contact.
They may be sweet sounding one minute and nasty and defensive the next.
They have short fuses and are triggered easily, but never assume responsibility for their behavior.
Outward anger and impatience from the overtly offended person are easy to spot, but be careful of the seething anger beneath the surface of the covertly offended person.
They get triggered quickly but because they don’t want to see seen as “angry”, they will hide it, repress it and otherwise pretend all is well. but whatever is in a person will come out of a person.
I believe this is even more dangerous than the overtly offended person.
#4 – Holds grudges
Romans 12:17 tells us, “Repay no one evil for evil but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.”
But that’s exactly what easily offended people do.
They take a real or perceived offense, they let it fester in their mind, running it over and over again until the offense has grown into a full-blown grudge where they are thinking ill of you.
#5 – Low self-awareness
Low self-awareness may sound like a contradiction to self-centeredness, but it’s not.
It’s actually because of their low self-esteem and self-centeredness that they work extra hard to hide their flaws and weaknesses so as to appear better than they are.
But Romans 12:3 says, “For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.”
The easily offended person creates an “image” (typically an inaccurate image) that they wish to portray.
So when someone comes along and challenges that image, said person is made to be the problem NOT the truth that was revealed.
For ex: you said x and as a result, I feel y- so therefore YOU’RE the problem.
You said, “Wow, what made you decide to do that?”
This is not only unbiblical, it’s no way to have a healthy relationship with someone.
Easily offended people don’t want healing, they want conformity.
So, should I just write them off?
Each case will vary. If there’s value in the relationship, then it may be your turn to overlook the offense and enjoy the other fruits of your relationship, but if you’re dealing with someone who harbors grudges against you and is always putting you in a position where you have to continually prove yourself to them while they don’t do much to contribute to the growth of the relationship, then you are likely looking at someone who is only in it for benefits it brings to them.
Yes, examine your heart and motives but also remember that sometimes the problem lies within them, not you.