If you’re a Christian and are considering a divorce, I won’t be so bold as to say that I understand what you’re going through despite the fact that I have been through a divorce myself—two, in fact. I do know that it’s difficult for anyone else to understand the unique dynamics behind your marriage and the pain you may be suffering.
I also know that choosing to get a divorce is one of the most agonizing decisions you can make. There is a pile-up of conflicting emotions, including anger, fear and excitement over the future.
Whether you are the one itching to get out or have just received the worst news of your life, divorce can be devastating to both parties and especially to the children, no matter how prepared you may think you are.
As a Licensed Christian Counselor and Divorce Recovery Coach, I work with many people who have gone through a divorce, are going through a divorce or desire a divorce.
It’s not uncommon for one or both parties to look at divorce as a solution to their marital woes and an end to their pain and frustration. But often times, divorce only succeeds in trading one set of problems for different problems. In many cases, divorce doesn’t bring the happiness you might expect because if the problem lies within yourself, your issues will follow you through the transition because wherever you go, there you are.
If you are thinking that unhappiness after divorce only happens outside of the church, you are mistaken.
If you marriage has a fighting chance, it should be given that chance. I could shock you with the stories of marriages that you would have never thought would be able to recover, but they did and the spouses are now living the “happily ever after.”
If your marriage seems worth fighting for, consider giving Christian Marriage Counseling a chance. It’s a small investment to make for the biggest decision of your life and your family’s life.