Why Doesn’t He Love Me?

Eddie was a charismatic, outgoing, fun-loving guy. Sheila fell in love with him from the moment he asked her to pass the sugar in the break room.

Sheila couldn’t believe that someone like Eddie would be interested in a shy girl like her. She was a bright young lady who was finishing up her law degree and had plans to move to New York for an opportunity with a large law firm. But the more time she spent with Eddie, the more she put off her plans.

“I was having so much fun. He was so good to me,” she said with tears running down her cheek.

Sheila was now sitting in my office, and suffering from depression. “I’m pregnant and Eddie now wants nothing to do with me!” she cried. “I’ve put off all of my plans to be an attorney only to get dumped by him. Why won’t he love me? What can I do to get him to love me again?”

These are the questions of many sad women who feel so desperate and lost. For most, they know in their heads—mainly because their friends keep repeating it—that he was no good for them, but something in their hearts longs for this person. This is typically a result of a soul tie.

What is a soul tie?

A soul tie is when two souls knit together, becoming one flesh. A soul tie can be good or bad, but in either case, it ties two souls together in the spiritual realm.

Soul ties are formed through close relationships. This can be a boyfriend, a friend, a co-worker or even someone you fantasize over. Marriage creates soul ties because they are joined together in one flesh. However, the most common type of soul tie you see is created through sexual relations outside of the marital covenant. When this type of soul tie is created it can draw an abused woman to a man whom she would otherwise run from. Instead, she runs to him even though he doesn’t love her and treats her like garbage.

Unholy soul ties can serve as bridges between two people to pass demonic garbage through. If you’ve ever allowed another person to manipulate you, and you were unaware of what was really going on, chances are you were part of a soul tie.

So instead of asking “Why won’t he love me?” ask yourself, “Has an unhealthy soul tie been formed?” If it has you will constantly feel as if you are under the control of this person or this feeling until the tie is broken.

How do I break this soul tie?

If you did make a vow or fornicate outside of marriage, you need to repent. Ask God to forgive you and He is faithful to do so. Then forgive the other person and forgive yourself.

When you have forgiven yourself, pray. “In the name of Jesus I break any and all ungodly soul ties that have been created between me and (name) as a result of (behavior). I declare myself free in Jesus’ name.”

Finally, ask yourself what attracted you to this person. Often times what you miss about that person or that relationship feels like a gaping hole in your soul, yet it was something relatively minor. What was missing in your life? If you don’t identify what drove you to fall for this phony façade you will likely fall for it again.

Jesus did not come so that we could be caught up in sin and the control of evil. He came so that we could have life and have it more abundantly. The abundant life is ours for the taking – in Jesus’ name!

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