Have You Ever Wondered Why Narcissists Never Seem to Face Consequences?
It feels like narcissists can use, abuse, and manipulate people without ever getting the punishment they deserve. It’s frustrating, right?
But what if I told you God will deal with those who hurt you, especially narcissists?
Yes, even your narcissist.
And the best part?
It doesn’t involve you getting stuck in the mud with them.
In this post, I’ll show you the biblical proof that god will deal with those who hurt you. By the end of our time together, you’ll see how His plan will bring you the peace you long for and the justice you deserve.
But before we dive into the scripture that will forever change how you see God’s justice, I want to take you on a little journey with me… to the laundry room.
No, I’m not multitasking you—I’m actually here to share how God’s justice works a lot like this washing machine. If you’re like me, your laundry is a mix of dirty, not-so-dirty, and downright disgusting clothes. You throw them all in together, press start, and—what do you do? You don’t check every three minutes. You walk away and let it do its thing.
And that’s my hope for you today: that you’ll let God do His thing. Let God be God.
While the wash cycle runs, let’s sit down with a cup of tea and dive into the scripture that will forever change how you see God’s justice.
Here is How God will Deal with Those Who Hurt You:
Psalm 37:1-2 says:
“Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass, they will soon wither, like green plants, they will soon die away.”
There it is—proof that God is sovereign and knows exactly what He’s doing. The Lord won’t allow evil to go on forever, even if it doesn’t seem like it. You may be asking, “Lord, where are You? Do You not see what this person is doing to me?” But it’s easy to fret when it looks like the narcissist is skating through life, hurting people without a care in the world.
What you really want is justice—and if you’re being honest, maybe even vengeance. It’s not that you want harm to come to this person, but you’re tired of watching them get away with it. Every little move they make becomes your focus, adding to the “bank of bitterness.” And before you know it, you’ve taken the enemy’s bait.
I know this because I’ve been there. You pray for two minutes and then spend two hours stewing over what they’ve done. It consumes you. You think the solution is to escape, but there’s another way.
There Is a Way to Get Your Peace Back
Psalm 37:3 says:
“Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.”
So, what does that mean? Am I telling you to endure abuse? No, absolutely not. But if it feels like there’s no way out, if justice or repentance seems out of reach, you can trust in the Lord.
Trusting in the Lord doesn’t mean saying, “God, I trust You to get me out of this, but in the meantime, I’m going to behave like they do.” Gossiping, giving the cold shoulder, or returning evil for evil isn’t trusting God—that’s falling into the enemy’s trap.
Instead, “do good.” Don’t yell when they talk down to you for the fourth time. Don’t deliver that sarcastic “mic-drop” remark. Don’t look like one of Satan’s minions while claiming to pray for them. Let God handle the situation. Let Him do His thing.
Delight Yourself in the Lord
Psalm 37:4 says:
“Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.”
Often, we think this means God will give us what we want if we just worship Him, but it’s so much more. The “desire” here is justice—the justice only God can deliver.
Commit Your Way to the Lord
Psalm 37:5-6 says:
“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him and He will do this: He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun.”
Trust Him. He will act. God will move on your behalf. The question is—do you truly believe that He will? Or do you say you trust Him until circumstances get tough, until they hurt you again until you feel like you can’t take it anymore?
Because when you fully trust Him, no matter what, Psalm 37:6 promises that God will bring forth your righteousness and justice.
Be Still and Wait Patiently
Psalm 37:7 says:
“Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways when they carry out their wicked schemes.”
Are you fretting? Or are you trusting? Because here’s where many Christians stumble: Psalm 37:8 warns us, “Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil.”
How many times have you “vented” in gossip or slander, thinking it’s harmless? God says, “That’s evil—stop it.”
Justice Is Coming
Psalm 37:9 says:
“For those who are evil will be destroyed, but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land.”
God promises to bring justice. Your job? Trust Him, do good, stop fretting, and let Him handle it. Don’t fall into the toxic patterns of the narcissist.
Set your boundaries when needed, even if that means no contact. But trust that God will deal with those who hurt you. Don’t get distracted by their behaviors. Stop trying to change them, stop insisting they validate you, and stop trying to get them to see the error of their ways. When God shows you who they are, believe Him—and leave them to God.
He sees the bigger picture. He knows the context you can’t see. He knows what He’s doing. And when it’s all said and done, it will all come out in the wash.
If you want to discover what God will do to the narcissist when He’s had enough, check out my episode here and be sure to grab your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide.
Your peace is worth it.
