Have you ever looked at someone and thought… something about them just feels off? There’s a darkness behind their smile, an emptiness in their eyes—but when you try to explain it, you feel crazy for even thinking that way.

You’re not imagining it.

Narcissists don’t just hurt people—they drain them, confuse them, and in some cases, destroy them while calling it love. And if you’ve ever wondered why they all seem to follow the same manipulative patterns, you’re about to find out.

There’s a reason why narcissists appear charming at first but leave you feeling trapped, confused, and spiritually drained. And today, we’re exposing seven demonic attitudes they bring into every relationship.

Are they just toxic… or is there something deeper at play? And more importantly—how do you protect yourself from their influence?

A Demonic Attitude is Not Just a Bad Mood

We all have off days—frustration, impatience, or even arrogance creeping in. But those emotions are fleeting. They don’t define who we are.

But when someone is more influenced by darkness than by truth, their attitudes don’t just become problematic—they become downright demonic. This is especially true when it comes to gaslighting and narcissistic abuse recovery, where victims are left questioning their reality and struggling to heal from emotional and psychological manipulation.

Think of it like this…

Imagine walking into a house with a rotting foundation. At first glance, everything looks normal—maybe even inviting, especially if it’s decorated nicely. But step too hard in the wrong spot and the floor caves in beneath you.

That’s what it’s like dealing with someone whose mindset is ruled by deception, manipulation, and destruction.

And the first demonic attitude on this list?

It’s the very thing that makes everything about them feel off, yet so convincing at the same time.

Gaslighting and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Recognizing the Signs and Breaking Free

1. Deception & Manipulation (John 8:44)

The most dangerous thing about narcissists is their ability to twist reality, gaslight, and make you question your own judgment. You could have proof in your hands, but somehow, they’ll convince you that you’re the one in the wrong.

It’s not just lying—it’s warping truth to control you.

This is one of the core tactics in gaslighting and narcissistic abuse recovery—where victims struggle to regain their sense of self after being manipulated for so long.

The enemy has been using this tactic since the beginning: “Did God really say…?” (Genesis 3:1). And just like that, deception took root in humanity. When a narcissist operates under this influence, they don’t just deceive—you start to doubt yourself.

They twist truth, distort facts, and reframe reality—not just to win, but to weaken you.

Jesus exposed this type of deception in John 8:44:
“You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.”

When deception is at work, it’s not just a bad habit—it’s evidence of who they’re truly influenced by.

2. Control & Domination (2 Corinthians 11:14-15)

Have you ever felt like you’re losing yourself in a relationship?

Like every decision, every thought, and every action is no longer yours?

It starts small—so small you don’t even notice. But before long, you’re second-guessing everything because someone else has taken the wheel.

This isn’t love. This is control.

Once they hook you, narcissists use a dangerous mix of emotional blackmail, guilt, fear, and gaslighting to break down your resistance. Victims often find themselves deep in gaslighting and narcissistic abuse recovery, struggling to reclaim their autonomy and self-worth after enduring such manipulation.

At first, they present themselves as your protector, your guide—even your savior. But in reality, they’re laying the groundwork to make sure you submit to their authority.

And if you do something they don’t like? The mask slips.

• Suddenly, the “caring” person turns cold, punishing, and ruthless.
• They treat your independence like a betrayal.
• They don’t want a relationship—they want ownership.

Here’s the kicker: Their control doesn’t always look aggressive. Sometimes, it’s sweet, soft-spoken manipulation disguised as concern:

• “I just want what’s best for you…”
• “You’re making a big mistake, but I’ll support you anyway…”

This is deception at the highest level, and Scripture warns us about it:

“And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no surprise if his servants, also, disguise themselves as servants of righteousness.” (2 Corinthians 11:14-15, ESV)

They don’t want a healthy, equal relationship. They want to own you.

3. Blame-Shifting & Accusation (Revelation 12:10)

The third demonic trait can best be described as a rigged courtroom where the verdict is always against you.

No matter how much evidence you have, the narcissist always walks away innocent, while you’re left carrying the guilt, shame, and blame for their actions.

🔹 Narcissists rewrite reality—not just to protect themselves but to place the burden of responsibility onto you.

• They lash out? You provoked them.
• They betray you? You weren’t meeting their needs.
• They manipulate and deceive? You’re paranoid and overreacting.

This is more than just manipulation—this is a demonic attack on your identity.

It’s why so many people seeking gaslighting and narcissistic abuse recovery feel like they’ve lost their sense of self.

The enemy loves false accusations. Satan himself is called “the accuser of the brethren”, because he works day and night to keep people trapped in guilt and condemnation. Revelation 12:10 warns:

“For the accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, who accuses them day and night before our God.”

Narcissists don’t just shift blame—they shred your confidence.

They want you doubting yourself so they can stay in control.

4. Hypocrisy & False Righteousness (Matthew 23:27-28)

The fourth demonic trait can best be described as a perfectly polished mask covering a heart of darkness.

On the outside, they present themselves as kind, compassionate—even godly. But behind closed doors, their behavior tells a completely different story.

Narcissists weaponize faith and morality to manipulate others while living in direct contradiction to the values they claim to uphold.

Jesus called out this behavior in the Pharisees, who were religious narcissists of His day:

“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs, which outwardly appear beautiful, but within are full of dead people’s bones and all uncleanness.” (Matthew 23:27-28, ESV)

They act like good people. They say all the right things.
But behind the scenes? They manipulate, lie, and deceive without a shred of conviction.

God sees what’s behind the mask.

Each of these demonic attitudes keeps narcissists in a cycle of destruction—and the longer you stay entangled with them, the more they pull you into it.

But you are not powerless.

God exposes deception so you can step into truth.

If you’ve been caught in a narcissist’s web, the first step is seeing them for who they truly are—and choosing to walk away from the manipulation, confusion, and control they bring.

Because once you see the truth, you can never unsee it.

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