You’re not imagining it.
Your weight has changed. Your digestion is off. You’re bloated in ways you never used to be. Your sleep is shallow, your fuse is shorter, and your jeans are tighter — even though your eating habits haven’t changed.
And the worst part? You keep wondering, “What’s wrong with me?”
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, a high-conflict partner, or someone emotionally unstable, let me gently say what you may have never heard before:
You’re not crazy. Your body is speaking. And it’s begging you to listen. 🧠💔
Let’s walk through 6 alarming signs that a narcissist in relationships might be damaging your health — and what you can do to protect the life God entrusted to you.
1. Chronic Inflammation and Pain 🔥
Think of your body like a building with a hidden electrical fire behind the walls. Everything may look fine at first — but inside, it’s overheating.
That’s what chronic inflammation is.
- Unexplained aches
- Tension in your neck, back, and shoulders
- Joint pain without injury
- Pain that “moves” or flares up with emotional episodes
📖 Proverbs 17:22 says, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
If you’re dealing with a narcissist in relationships, your body wasn’t made to live under constant emotional fire. If this sounds familiar, it’s time to start listening before the damage goes deeper.
2. Sleep Disturbances (Even When Exhausted) 😴⚡
You might think you just need a nap. But if you’re constantly tired and unable to rest deeply, your body is likely sounding a bigger alarm.
Signs include:
- Trouble falling or staying asleep
- Vivid or emotionally exhausting dreams
- Feeling unrested after a full night’s sleep
📖 Psalm 4:8 reminds us, “In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety.”
When your emotional world isn’t safe, your body won’t let you rest.
3. Digestive Issues (Gut Dysfunction) 🤢
Your gut and brain are always in conversation. When your mind is in distress, your gut feels it.
Look for:
- Bloating
- Nausea
- IBS symptoms
- Food sensitivities
- Constipation
📖 Proverbs 18:14, “The human spirit can endure sickness, but a crushed spirit who can bear?”
Toxic relationships disrupt this mind-body connection, and digestion is often the first system to suffer.
4. Brain Fog and Memory Loss 🌫️🧠
Ever feel like your mind just isn’t clicking anymore?
- Forgetfulness
- Trouble concentrating
- Feeling like you’re “losing it”
You’re not broken. You’re overwhelmed. Emotional chaos rewires the brain and weakens focus, clarity, and memory.
📖 Isaiah 26:3, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”
Peace is fuel for a clear mind. Without it, your thoughts become clouded and scattered.
5. Hair Loss, Skin Breakouts, and Unexplained Weight Gain 💇♀️💥
When internal pressure builds, the body eventually shows it on the outside.
Signs include:
- Hair thinning or shedding
- Acne or sudden skin changes
- Weight gain (especially around your midsection)
High cortisol levels (your stress hormone) can disrupt metabolism, skin health, and hair growth.
What’s happening inside your heart is often reflected on your skin and in your body’s shape.
6. Frequent Illness or Weakened Immune System 🤧🛑
Being in emotional survival mode suppresses your immune system.
You may notice:
- Constant colds or flu
- Lingering infections
- Always feeling “run down”
Your body is too busy managing emotional threats to defend you from physical ones.
📖 Nehemiah 8:10, “The joy of the Lord is your strength.”
When joy is drained, strength is drained — physically and spiritually.
These Are Just the Beginning ⚠️
Other signs may include:
- Hormonal imbalances
- Shortness of breath or chest tightness
- Loss of joy in physical movement
- New or worsening food intolerances
Each symptom is not a betrayal. It’s not weakness. It’s your body’s way of asking for help.
So What Can You Do? 🙏💡
If you saw yourself in any of these signs, don’t shame yourself, and don’t panic. Your body and your heavenly Father have been fighting for you this whole time.
Here’s where to begin:
- Turn Your Eyes to Jesus 👁️✝️
Stop exhausting yourself trying to earn love from someone who keeps you emotionally bankrupt. True healing doesn’t begin when they change — it begins when you anchor yourself in the unchanging love of Christ.
Let God rebuild what the narcissist in relationships tried to destroy. - Start Listening 👂🕊️
Stop rehashing their behavior and start paying attention to what your body and spirit are telling you.
This isn’t selfishness. It’s stewardship. - Guard Your Heart (and Your Peace) 🛡️💗
Make healing your priority in every area:
- Get a full medical check-up (ideally with a holistic or functional medicine doctor)
- Seek godly counseling for your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being
- Choose environments that promote healing, not survival
Even something as simple as deep breathing can tell your nervous system, “You are safe now.”
Final Reminder 🕯️
You’re not crazy.
You’re not broken.
And you’re certainly not alone.
Your body isn’t betraying you — it’s trying to rescue you. 💬💪
If you’re wondering what God will do to the narcissist when He’s had enough, check out this episode here.
And don’t forget to grab your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide right here.
