Is There a Darker Side Behind Narcissistic Behavior?
Have you ever wondered if there’s more to a narcissist’s behavior than just personality flaws? What if the manipulation, emotional chaos, and control tactics aren’t just psychological but something much darker? In this article, we’re going to explore four signs that a narcissist may actually be under the influence of demonic forces and exhibiting signs of spiritual warfare. By the end, you’ll have a clearer understanding of what might be driving their behavior—and more importantly, you’ll learn how to protect yourself.
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If you’ve spent any time around a narcissist, you’re probably all too familiar with the emotional, psychological, and even spiritual damage they can cause. Narcissists bring chaos wherever they go—yet somehow always make you feel like you’re to blame. And while you’re left picking up the pieces, they continue their pattern of self-centered destruction. But here’s the truth: treating narcissistic behavior without addressing the spiritual root is like trying to cut weeds without pulling out their roots—they always grow back stronger.
In many cases, the narcissistic behaviors you see on the surface are just symptoms, but there’s a hidden root system underground, where spiritual forces are at work. When you address only the visible signs, you’re left wondering why the toxic behavior keeps coming back.
Let’s go deeper and uncover four clear signs of spiritual warfare that may be influencing the narcissist’s behavior.
1. Manipulation and Deception
Imagine sitting across from the narcissist, trying to have a simple conversation. At first, everything seems calm, but soon, the story begins to twist. They subtly twist your words, make you question your own memory, and before you know it, you’re apologizing for something they did. It feels like stepping into a maze—just when you think you’ve found a way out, they move the walls again with gaslighting, denial, or victim-playing.
This level of manipulation goes beyond basic dishonesty. It’s an elaborate smokescreen meant to keep you confused, disoriented, and trapped. Isaiah 14:12-15 describes Lucifer’s fall due to his pride and desire for control—qualities that narcissists exhibit as well. Their manipulation serves to draw you away from reality, just as Satan seeks to deceive and divide.
Consider also John 8:44, which describes Satan as the “father of lies.” Narcissists, too, are experts at manipulating truth, and this doesn’t come from mere personality; it may be a demonic strategy. Once a person gives in to constant manipulation, they may unknowingly open a door for spiritual influence. This is where deception takes root, leaving both the narcissist and those around them in a web of lies.
1 Timothy 4:1 warns us, “The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons.” If you notice a pattern of gaslighting, twisting the truth, or rewriting history, there may be something darker at work behind the scenes.
2. Spiritual Blindness and a Hardened Heart
Have you ever looked into the eyes of a narcissist during an argument and felt like you were talking to a wall? You explain you present the facts, but there’s no understanding—just a blank stare or even cold indifference. It’s as if they’re blocked from seeing the truth.
When a person opens the door to demonic influence, one of the first things to go is their ability to see the truth. Over time, the narcissist’s heart hardens, making real change feel impossible. 2 Corinthians 4:4 explains, “The god of this world has blinded the minds of unbelievers, to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel.”
This blindness keeps the narcissist trapped in a cycle of sin and selfishness. If your narcissist shows signs of avoiding accountability, rejecting godly counsel, and rationalizing harmful behavior, it may be a sign of spiritual blindness and a hardened heart.
3. Division and Strife
Does it feel like conflict and chaos follow the narcissists wherever they go? Whether it’s family gatherings, friendships, or the workplace, they somehow manage to stir up drama. You try to keep the peace, but conflict always finds its way back, leaving everyone divided and on edge.
This isn’t just a personality flaw—it’s a tactic straight out of the enemy’s playbook. John 10:10 reminds us, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” Narcissists thrive on division and strife, often using manipulation to keep others in conflict and themselves in control.
4. Unforgiveness and Resentment
One of the most damaging signs of spiritual warfare is the narcissist’s inability to forgive. They hold onto grudges, keeping a mental tally of every perceived offense. Even if you apologize, it’s never enough—they hold onto resentment like a treasured possession, waiting for the perfect moment to use it against you.
Ephesians 4:26-27 warns, “In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” Narcissists often justify their anger and carry it like a badge of honor, which only opens the door for further spiritual influence.
Holding onto bitterness isn’t just destructive for them; it poisons everyone around them, creating a ripple effect of hurt and chaos.
How to Respond if Spiritual Forces Are Involved
If you’re dealing with someone who shows these signs of spiritual warfare, here are some ways to respond:
- Pray for Discernment and Protection
James 1:5: “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” - Pray for Deliverance and Healing
2 Corinthians 10:4-5: “The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.” - Use the Authority of Christ
Luke 10:19: “I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you.” - Pray for Their Heart to Soften
Ezekiel 36:26: “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.” - Fast and Pray
Mark 9:29: “This kind can come out only by prayer and fasting.”
While you can’t change their heart, you can pray for their freedom and healing, even if it’s from a distance. Your prayers are powerful, and God is with you in this battle. He desires their freedom even more than you do.
If you’re curious about how God brings justice, be sure to check out my episode on divine justice.
And don’t forget to download your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide for more scriptures and support in handling the narcissist in your life.
Remember, God is in control—even in the darkest situations.
