They lied, they smeared your name, they made you question your worth, and worst of all, they did it while pretending to be the victim. But here’s the truth that the enemy doesn’t want you to know. God sees everything – and when He says enough, everything hidden will be exposed.

In this blog, I am bringing together three powerful teachings to help you discover exactly how God begins to deal with the narcissist when their manipulation crosses the line, including the prayer that stops them dead in their tracks, the predictable signs of exposure, and what God will do when He brings justice. Because my friend, vindication isn’t just coming – God’s going to do it right in front of them. 

Part 1 – The Prayer That Stops the Narcissist Dead in Their Tracks

Narcissists wreak havoc in the lives of their victims, but no matter who the narcissist is in your life or how you’re feeling about them right now, one thing is for sure, life with them is unstable, unfulfilling, and an emotional roller coaster.

And maybe you’ve endured years of emotional abuse, or perhaps you’ve discovered that this person isn’t who they portrayed themselves to be, and you’re furious. The lies, the deceit, the betrayal, the slander, have gotten you so angry you don’t even know how to pray, much less whether you want to.

But one thing we can be certain of is this – God will take vengeance on those who have wronged you. Don’t believe me, just ground yourself in Romans 12:19 where it says,

“Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine. I will repay,’ says the Lord.” 

While you can rest in the mighty power of God, there are some biblically based prayers that God might be looking to enlist you in. So how do you effectively and biblically pray for the narcissist?

Well, I want you to imagine standing by the ocean, looking out over calm waters. The surface seems peaceful, but as you step deeper, you feel a strong current tugging beneath you, pulling you further and further out. Now, trying to fight that pull on your own is exhausting, maybe even dangerous, and that’s what it can feel like when dealing with a narcissist.

Their manipulation is like an undertow, drawing you further and further into confusion and frustration. But here’s the good news – you don’t have to face this current alone. In fact, the first prayer that we’re talking about is powerful for situations just like this. It is to…

Pray for Reckoning 

Praying for God’s reckoning is asking Him to bring hidden motives and lies to light. To reveal truth and bring consequences His way. It isn’t about personal revenge; it’s about calling on God to shine a light onto the shadows, exposing the deception, and setting things right.

Psalm 28:3-4 is a go-to for this kind of prayer. It says,

“Do not drag me off with the wicked, with the workers of evil, who speak peace with their neighbors while evil is in their hearts. Give to them according to their work and according to their evil deeds; give to them according to the work of their hands; render them their due reward.”

This scripture captures what it means to ask for God’s justice. It’s a prayer asking God to respond to those who speak peace but harbor deceit, reminding us that God sees what is hidden, and He knows exactly how to handle it.

Then there’s Galatians 6:7-8, where we see a reminder of God’s justice in full action.

“Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.”

Everyone, including the narcissist, eventually faces the consequences of their actions. So when we pray for reckoning, we are handing over the situation, knowing God’s justice will be true and thorough. It’s about saying, God, You see everything, bring the reckoning that I never could.

This may also be a good time for you to check yourself. What are you sowing?

In full transparency, I went through a season of disgusting gossip. I mean, no matter how many times the Lord convicted me, I would just fall right back into it. And it wasn’t until I was completely brought to my knees that I saw the weight, the full weight, of that sin, and became utterly repulsed by it. But that doesn’t always remove the consequences.

You see, there are areas in my life right now where I am actually reaping what I’ve sown, and if someone whose heart is bent on following the Lord can suffer these principles, how much more will the narcissist who refuses to see their sin?

Pray for Revenge 

The next prayer against the narcissist is one that many Christians may hesitate to pray. In fact, some believe we aren’t even allowed to ask for this kind of justice, but the Apostle Paul gives us a powerful example of why we should.

You see, when Paul was betrayed by Alexander the coppersmith, he didn’t seek personal revenge, but he did pray for revenge. He boldly asked God to repay him according to his deeds. Paul understood that God is a righteous judge, and by asking for biblical justice, he placed the situation entirely in God’s hands, trusting Him to bring justice in His way and His timing.

You see, the Bible doesn’t ignore the reality of betrayal and harm. In 2nd Timothy 4:14, Paul says,

“Alexander the coppersmith did me much harm; may the Lord repay him according to his deeds.”

Here, Paul addresses an individual who has caused him serious trouble. He didn’t say, ‘Oh, I just need to forgive,’ or, ‘Oh, I gotta let this go,’ or, ‘I don’t want to block my blessings.’ No, he prayed for revenge. Paul acknowledged an essential truth – God is a God of justice, and He will right the wrongs that are done against His people.

Paul didn’t allow, however, his energy to be consumed or his purpose to be derailed by seeking vengeance. At any time, he would have welcomed repentance and reconciliation, but he also relied on God’s justice – freeing him from the weight of retribution and focusing on his calling. But he did pray for revenge.

Similarly, when dealing with someone who has wounded us, especially when that person is a narcissist, skilled in manipulation, it can be tempting to seek revenge, even if only in your own mind, but be careful that you don’t become ensnared by the devil, too.

By following Paul’s example, we can bring our hurt to God in prayer, asking him to address the wrongs that were done to us and let his justice be served. It’s not about letting them off the hook. It’s about putting them on God’s hook.

I love the way Psalm 94:1 reminds us, 

“Oh Lord, God of vengeance, Oh God of vengeance, shine forth!”

God sees all things, hears all things, and knows all motives. He will not overlook the wrong done to you any more than He will overlook the wrong done to Paul.

Pray for God’s Reproof

Imagine there’s someone in your life that is walking around completely unchecked, leaving chaos everywhere they go, maybe even blaming others for their actions and issues, and no matter how much pain they cause or how many boundaries they cross, it seems like there’s just no consequences for their actions.

But what if there was a way to shine a light on their behavior, to expose them in a way that doesn’t involve confrontation or malice?

The next prayer is one of the most powerful tools that we have – praying for God’s reproof. It is asking God Himself to step in and shine a light so bright that their harmful actions can no longer stay hidden in the dark.

Yes, we are going to pray for the narcissist’s worst nightmare to come to reality – exposure.

When we pray for reproof, we’re asking for a holy unveiling of their harmful behavior, for their destruction. Now, before you go thinking, ‘Oh, Kris, that’s kind of harsh’ – no, it’s biblical. First Corinthians 5:5 tells us,

“You are to deliver this man to Satan for the destruction of his flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord.”

In this passage, Paul is commanding the Corinthian church to expel a young man who is engaging in an incestuous relationship with his stepmother. Listen, he didn’t command them to love him, keep him coming to church, keep him close to the fire, or maybe start a support group for him. No – Paul commanded that they throw him out of the fellowship and hand him over to Satan.

Now, throwing somebody out of the fellowship in that day was the equivalent of an excommunication. Nowadays, we can just go to another church, sit in the back, and nobody will know what we’ve done. But that wasn’t what it was like back then. And Paul said, “Get him out of the fellowship and hand him over to Satan,” with the hope that he would experience the life that Satan had for him in such fullness that he would come to repentance and turn from his sinful ways.

This severe command was for the hope of his ultimate redemption, and that should be our goal too. If the narcissist wants to keep walking down that deceptive, perverted road that they’ve chosen, then may they be fully handed over to it. God will not override our will, nor theirs, not even the will of the self-serving, pride-filled narcissist.

Romans 1:28 tells us what God will do when he’s had enough, it says,

“And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not be done.”

This passage shows a sobering aspect of God’s judgment. This does not mean that God stops caring, it simply means that He will not violate His word and He will not allow a person in rebellion to not experience the consequences of that rebellion. That’s why you’ll often notice that with the stubborn, prideful narcissist, it actually gets worse before it ever gets better.

Pray for Recompense

Have you ever felt like everything the narcissist took from you – your peace, your confirmation, your time, your money, your love, your future – was just gone forever? Like they’ve left you in pieces, and you’re wondering if there’s any way to truly get back what’s been lost?

Here’s where things get interesting. The Bible speaks of something very powerful and often overlooked – recompense. And this isn’t about just moving on, or letting go, or picking yourself up by your Christian bootstraps. It’s about praying God Himself will restore what was taken from you and repay everything that was lost.

You see, Hebrews 10:30 says, 

“For we know him who said, ‘Vengeance is mine; I will repay.’ God’s recompense isn’t just a repayment for the evil they’ve done, it’s a repayment for the blessings you have lost.”

If someone has wronged you, if the enemy has stolen from you, or if the enemy has used the narcissist to strip you of everything, you can rest assured, God will repay not just them, but you, too. He will repay you for the years that the locusts have eaten.

Not convinced fully? Check out Isaiah 61:7,

“Instead of your shame, you shall have a double portion.”

Imagine not only getting back what was stolen, but seeing it returned in double measure. That is our God. God’s promises of recompense are real, and they’re waiting for you, and it is biblical to pray for them when you’ve been robbed.

A Prayer for Biblical Justice Against the Narcissist

Heavenly father, I come before You, seeking Your divine intervention against the schemes of this narcissist in my life. You are a God of justice who sees all things – I ask for Your reckoning to bring light to every hidden deed and motive, expose the harm they’ve caused and let the truth come forth. Lord, Your word says that You will avenge on behalf of Your children, and I pray that You would bring about justice in Your perfect way, holding them accountable for their actions as only You can. May Your hand of reproof show them the error of their ways, causing them to confront the harm they’ve caused, and may Your presence convict their heart to turn away from sin. Finally, Lord, I pray for Your divine recompense that You would restore all that was taken, damaged or lost in my life. I trust in Your promise to redeem what has been broken, bringing peace and healing to my heart. Amen.

Now, there is an important part to this that many miss, and, if overlooked, could land you in the same camp as the narcissist when you’re fighting evil with evil and wondering why God isn’t answering your prayers.

So what is this one thing that could actually hinder your prayers? Well, it’s something we miss because we’re so consumed with the hurt that we wonder, what’s taking God so long, and if we’re not careful, we can play right into the enemy’s hands. 2nd Peter 3:9 says,

“The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promises as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.”

God’s intention is not for anyone to be lost, but for all to come to repentance and experience His grace. And yes, that does include the narcissist. That’s why, in order for you to be in full alignment with the Holy Spirit and the Holy Scriptures, and to avoid Satan’s trap for yourself, your prayers for the narcissist are just as important.

Release, Repentance, Restoration

There are three main areas of prayer that I want you to focus on in your prayers for the narcissist: release, repentance, and restoration. Now you may be saying, “Kris, I don’t know that I can pray for the narcissist,” but to understand the forces at work behind this person, it may actually help to soften your heart and enter into prayer with true compassion.

Release

You see, narcissists typically don’t just deal with narcissism. The behaviors you see them exhibiting are typically from deep-seated emotional issues that are rooted in trauma, attachment issues, insecurity, emotional immaturity, and demonic influence, just to name a few.

Now, this is by no means an excuse for their behavior, because, like the rest of us, they still have a choice. They still have opportunities to turn from those ways, to get help and to submit to the Lord, and that is what you’re going to pray for.

So, when you pray prayers of release, you’re asking the Lord to break any strongholds and demonic influences over his or her life. There are so many demonic spirits that operate behind narcissism – pride, control, greed, addiction, and more. Ask the Lord to reveal to you the spirits that are operating in this person’s life. And even if you don’t know, you’re still called to pray.

If this is your spouse, you carry the spiritual authority to break any demonic influence over their life. This is not the time to show them the spirits that they’re under. This is the time to fight this battle in the spirit realm. Go into your prayer closet, and remember, they’ve already come into agreement with these demonic forces, and they don’t even realize it, but Luke 10:19 grants you the power when it says,

“Behold, I have given you the authority to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall hurt you.”

You want this person released from the kingdom of darkness so the next prayer can be fulfilled, and that is repentance.

Repentance

There is nothing that God cherishes more than a broken and contrite heart. He responds to humility. In 2nd Peter 3:9, it reminds us,

“The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient towards you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.”

He wants the narcissist to repent of their selfish, manipulative ways and place their trust in Him.

I know many talk about how it is not possible for the narcissist to change, and while I agree it is not probable due to their free will, to blanketly say it is not possible, completely denies the power of God. After all, remember what He did to and for Paul on the road to Damascus and his powerful conversion. It is possible – pray for their repentance.

And ultimately you’re going to pray for their restoration, too.

Restoration

Isaiah 55:7 reminds us, 

“Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; let him return to the Lord, that he may have compassion on him, and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon.”

I realize that the narcissist’s pardon and restoration may not be at the top of your prayer list, but if you truly want to see God’s will done, this will be your heart’s cry. That this person will be released from their bondage, repent of their wrongdoing, and be restored in right standing with God.

Now remember, when the Apostle Paul was betrayed by Alexander the coppersmith, he prayed for revenge, not because he hated him, but because Paul wanted nothing more than to see Alexander restored – much in the same way that the young man sleeping with his stepmother in point three, was actually fully restored because he repented.

So I want to encourage you to pray these prayers for the narcissist, and watch not only what God will do in their life, but what He’s going to end up doing in your heart and life too.

A Prayer for Release, Repentance, and Restoration

Heavenly Father, I lift up that one struggling with narcissism. Lord, I pray for their peace from every demonic stronghold that binds them. I ask that You would break the chains of pride, deceit, and control that hold them captive and open their eyes to the truth. Stir within them, Lord, a spirit of repentance that they may turn from sin and seek Your face with full humility. Father, may they come to know You, Your love, and Your grace and be fully restored to You and transformed by Your Spirit. I trust in Your mighty power, in Jesus name, amen.

Part 2 – When God Exposes the Narcissist, Expect This Predictable Pattern

Okay, you’ve done your research. You believe, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you are dealing with a narcissist. You know. They know. They know you know. Now what?

To start, we need to clarify once and for all that it doesn’t matter who the potential narcissist may be – parent, partner, Pastor, sibling, co-worker, or friend, God will expose the narcissist.

John 3:20 says,

“For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed.”

No matter who your narcissist is, it’s likely that you’ve spent years in confusion. Confused by the mixed messages, the lies, the manipulation, the gaslighting, or perhaps you’ve had so many twisted Bible scriptures thrown at you that you’ve become a pro at dodgeball. But God, in His faithfulness, has brought you out of that confusion and into clarity.

It’s like blinders have been removed. You’re no longer fooled by the craziness, and you see with crystal clarity that this person only cares about themselves, and you’re flooded with relief to know you’re not crazy. But then… confusion comes a knocking, because now they know that you know. They’ll never verbally admit it, but they know that the tide has turned, and unless they have someone else to fall back on, it’s about to get more toxic.

You see, narcissists are very observant people, especially for things concerning themselves, and they will initially get flustered, nasty, defensive, or avoidant. It’s these initial reactions that you need to focus on, as you’re going to need to refer back to them later in the final phase of their reaction.

After the initial reaction, you can expect to see a slightly different narcissist. So enter, Phase 1.

Phase 1

The narcissist will employ any effort necessary to get things back to normal, and this phase is easy to detect, as they will go to whatever behavior has worked in the past. If intimidation was high on their success rate, they will come in strong with that. If guilt is the go-to, you’ll get an extra dose. Whatever has worked in the past, expect an amped up version of that as their next reaction. But hold firm, the ride has just begun. Enter…

Phase 2

Threats, insults, rage, anything to trigger you so you react. This is done so that they can now look at your toxic reaction and say, “See, you’re the problem. If you were more patient, kind, understanding, if you weren’t so nasty, critical, controlling…” In their mind, they feel better because you’ve just proven, to them anyway, that your toxic reaction means you’re the problem.

But you know better. You’re not phased. Nonsense like this would have killed you in the past, but not now. Get ready, however, for phase 3.

Phase 3

This is where it’s going to start to get confusing. This is where you’re going to start to let your guard down and bring your hope up.

When the go-to tactics don’t work, when the entrapment fails, then comes the apology. At this point, you’re likely thinking, “Maybe they’ve changed. What if they finally get it?” It is possible, but not probable.

So I want to prepare you for what will likely be the most confusing of all of the stages. The victim that’s packaged as an apology.

You see, now they come to you deflated. You’ve not backed down from their tactics. You’ve not given in to their manipulation. You’ve held strong. But if you’re not careful, you can mistake deflation for surrender, and here is where they play the victim, because you’ve triggered their shame response.

If you’ve struggled with an angry narcissist in the past, you may think that they’ve finally come to themselves because they’re so deflated, but this is what lands most people right back in the lion’s den.

This is where you may get met with apologies and think, “Wow, we’ve turned a corner. God can redeem anyone, and maybe my prayers are paying off.” Perhaps, but consider this: perhaps it’s just a ploy.

Your optimism is based upon God’s power, not their behavior. And yes, all things are possible with God, but God’s power is not in question here; it’s the narcissist’s behavior that is.

So, how do you know the difference? Give it time. Keep holding your boundaries by not allowing things to go back to “normal,” and see how they react. Now I know that this is the hardest part, because you want to believe that they’ve changed. You want to embrace the person that you’ve always hoped they would be. But wait, if they are truly repentant, they will understand that they’ve got a lot of work to do to rebuild your trust, and it’s going to take time.

They will no longer blame and justify, but rather, they will take responsibility. They will be talking to a pastor or a counselor for an extended period of time. They will constantly seek to understand how they’ve hurt you and take ownership. Then… you go to counseling together.

Then, after a long period, you start to slowly let this person back into your life. But not the same as before, because trust still needs to be earned, and you do that in small test periods.

Now you may be saying, “But Kris, that’s so much work, and that could take forever. I just want things to go back to better than normal.” Be careful – your impatience can lead you right back into trouble, because you have to give it time to see if they’ve truly changed as a result of God’s exposure.

If they haven’t truly changed, then their apology is likely nothing more than an improved manipulative attempt to get back into your good graces to get things back to what they want. So enter…

Phase 4

Now they know that you’re not taking the bait. You’re not intimidated by their threats, and you no longer rely upon them for your emotional well-being. Their old tactics don’t work. So they may say sorry one minute, but justify their behavior the next. And if you’re not careful, you’re going to end up right back in the pre-phase confusion, because the truth is, they’re really not sorry.

Here’s the pattern to watch out for – when they repent, and you don’t automatically let them back into your good graces, watch what happens next.

They will likely default right back to the initial reaction that you received in phase 1. Yep, they’ll go full circle. They’ll blame you. They’ll accuse you of being unforgiving. But my friend, if you stand your ground, God will show you with crystal clarity exactly what you’re dealing with.

You see, narcissists thrive through convenience. Make their life and their behaviors easy; they’re good, but call them out and watch out. They have no desire to put any effort into a relationship. They honestly believe that their presence alone is all they need to bring to the table. If you have something that they need, they’ll likely try to trick you into thinking they’ve changed. If you don’t have something they need, they’ll leave.

And while all of this can feel incredibly distressing and time-consuming, I want to encourage you through the powerful words found in Romans 8:31,

“What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?”

Part 3 – What God Will Do With the Narcissist When He’s Had Enough – Biblical Justice

There is a character in the Bible who always reminds me of God’s justice. Perhaps you know her from the books of 1st and 2nd Kings. She was a Phoenician princess who was the wife of Ahab, king of Israel, and her name was Jezebel.

Jezebel was a spiteful, manipulative, wicked, malicious woman who presented as charming and attractive, and at times, a victim. Sound like anyone you know?

Narcissists are notorious for putting on the performance of being everything you need, but beneath the surface, they are self-centered, immature, entitled little brats who will stop at nothing to get what they want from you.

Now, Jezebel was infamously known for promoting the worship of Baal, a Canaanite deity in Israel that was directly in opposition to the worship of God. She was also famous for her role in the persecution of the prophets of God and the murder of Naboth, just for his vineyard. Why? Because her husband wanted it. And her actions led to severe confrontations with the prophet Elijah.

Now in our lives, she’s the mother who seems to always get her way with her constant abuse. She’s the woman at the office who has the boss fooled, or at the very least, they’re afraid of her coming unhinged. Now here’s the thing, she doesn’t have to be a she. This Jezebel behavior is no respecter of genders. You see men with these same traits as well, and you’ll see God do the exact same thing.

In fact, there are some predictable patterns that I want you to start looking out for, patterns you might otherwise miss if you’re focused on the fear and frustration.

For starters, God will not tolerate idolatry and falsehood. Jezebel’s promotion of Baal worship and her attempts to suppress the worship of God actually represent the pinnacle of how the narcissist operates. They are idolizers and liars.

Like Jezebel, narcissists create false images, and they exalt themselves at the expense of others. But remember this, God hates idol worship. In fact, let’s go back to Exodus 20, where it says,

“You shall have no other gods before me.”

Now you may be thinking, “Well, it’s not like they’ve got carved images that they worship.” Or do they? I think a lot of their “carved images” are in the shape of a long piece of glass, and it’s called a mirror.

Narcissists worship themselves. They exalt themselves and anything else above God. And don’t be fooled, they’re not content with just worshiping themselves. They need you to worship them, too.

Do you ever wonder why things always go south when you raise an issue or express a concern, or a dislike about them? Their ego is as fragile as that mirror. And just like God warned the people of Israel in Deuteronomy 6 not to follow other gods, He also sent warnings to Jezebel, and He will send warnings to the narcissist.

You can expect God to be merciful and give chance after chance, and that is going to be the first phase…

God Will Send Warnings

The truth is, Jezebel’s fate didn’t have to end the way that it did. Narcissists, and all of us for that matter, are given chance after chance, warning after warning. And if we heed those warnings, it can lead to repentance and restoration. Ignore them, and you head for destruction full steam ahead.

That’s exactly what He did for Jezebel. Elijah and the other prophets were sent to stand up to her, but instead of heeding their warnings, what did Jezebel do? She set out to destroy Elijah, even after he had demonstrated the power of God on Mount Carmel by calling down fire from heaven to consume a sacrifice that completely humiliated the prophets of Baal, whom Jezebel supported.

What did this do? It infuriated her, and she sent threats to Elijah that he, too, would be murdered. Now, we already know what she’s capable of – remember Naboth? And isn’t that just like a scorned narcissist? Cross them, and their hatred has no expiration. And crossing them doesn’t take much. Once they feel betrayed or scorned by you, their attempts at revenge will be relentless.

Now I have to assume that Elijah wondered, “God, what are you going to do about this woman? Where is your justice?” But God is faithful. It is not His will that any should perish, but all come to salvation, just like you and me. God will give ample opportunities for us to turn from wickedness and repent, and He often sends warnings through people.

Now I realize this first warning phase can seem very, very long for those who are waiting for justice and change. It’s even in this stage that many start to embrace destructive, retaliatory efforts of their own, and then, sadly, wonder why things continue to get worse. And many, unfortunately, in this phase, actually give up on God and give up on hope before they reach the next phase, which is this…

God Will Bring Divine Justice 

My friend, He WILL bring justice.

Jezebel’s fate is often cited as an example of God’s divine justice, and there is nothing that Elijah could have done to have stopped this woman. God had to intervene.

In case you don’t know, Jezebel’s story ends in a very gruesome manner, as prophesied by Elijah. She was thrown out of a window by members of her own court, trampled to death by horses, and eaten by dogs, leaving nothing but her skull, feet, and the palms of her hands. You can read more about it in 2nd Kings 9. This brutal end was a direct consequence of her actions and is seen as divine retribution to this day.

God will not be mocked, and Jezebel’s story is a classic example of how breaking the principles of God and the persecution of His people will ultimately lead to downfall and punishment.

That narcissist in your life that uses manipulation like sport, the one who lacks empathy, exploits people for their own personal gain, and uses twisted scripture to justify his or her means, is headed for a fate similar to Jezebel. No, it may not be as gruesome, but it will be just as just because God’s justice will prevail.

The truth is, all of us, narcissists included, will eventually face the consequences for our actions. Your narcissist may not be as bad as Jezebel, maybe they are. Maybe they won’t suffer such a brutal, physical death like hers, but God may allow them to suffer in other ways. Frequently, for a narcissist, this is done through a lack of supply, failure, and perpetual dissatisfaction, which is why you see the narcissist getting worse with old age.

In other words, God will reach a point where He hands them over to their own debased mind and sinful ways. And when that time comes, it can look like there is no justice for you, but believe me, it is torment for them.

Imagine living life, constantly dissatisfied, always wanting more, but it’s always out of reach, and the only thing that brings you temporary pleasure is the misery of others. Now I’m not saying that your justice will only be in the form of seeing them suffer. I’m simply saying that their happy lives aren’t as happy as you think.

Your justice is grounded in the truth that God will restore the years. God will use what the enemy meant for evil. God will turn your mourning into dancing. You just need to be still.

I’m also not saying any of this so that you feel sorry for them. They chose this way of life. Their constant rejection of God landed them exactly where they are, and now they’re grounded in it. They’re grounded in the misery, the hatred, the constant unsuccessful attempts to fill their needs, and that sounds like hell – literally. It sounds a lot like what hell is like, and that will be the fate of a narcissist – living in a constant state of hell and torment in their own mind and lives. I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t trade anything that I’m going through for that.

But wait, it gets worse. What is the narcissist’s greatest need? It’s supply. And where do they get this supply? From people. And how often do they burn through people that they use and abuse? Pretty frequently. So, where do you think this leaves them? Alone.

Everyone has walked away. No one is tolerating their abusive behavior except for maybe a few codependent family members or a clerk at the grocery store who thinks they’re all that, but that’s it. There’s no one. Family has been exhausted, kids have pulled away, and friends are nowhere to be found. They’ve burned all bridges, and yes, they will consider themselves victims and blame everyone and everything, including you, but ultimately, the fate of a narcissist is misery.

Now I realize that you may love this person and you don’t want to see that kind of harm come to them, but the truth is, your enablement will not change their fate if they don’t repent. The names and faces of the narcissist will change, but God never will. He is no more intimidated by your narcissist than He was by Jezebel, and I can assure you that the narcissist will not get away with it, not when God is your defender. Because there is no demon in hell or narcissist on earth that can surpass the power of our living God. 

One of the ways that narcissists pull you into their trap is through twisting of Scripture that leaves you wondering if you’re the one sinning against God, and that’s why I want you to check out this article next for the four scriptures that narcissists love to twist. And if you are struggling with difficult people in your life, I invite you to grab a copy of our free Toxic People Survival Guide. This is my free gift to you to help you identify and deal with all the difficult people in your life.