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Best Books for Dealing with Toxic People (God’s Way)

Many Christians have the idea that a Christ-follower must be accepting of other people to the point where we tolerate toxic behavior all in the name of love. But toxic people are a breed unto themselves. When I say “toxic people,” I’m…
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Can Christians Be Toxic?

My friend Lynn was so excited she could hardly contain herself. She was starting her new job in just a few days. After 10 years in corporate America, Lynn had had enough of the office politics. No longer caring about the money, Lynn felt that…
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How to Forgive Someone Who Doesn't Deserve It

The most difficult part of forgiveness for most people is letting go of the anger. Especially when the person who has hurt you denies that they have done anything wrong. Perhaps they have repeatedly hurt you. Maybe they broke your trust.…
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How to Deal With a Toxic Mother (God's Way)

The mother-child relationship can be complicated. But what do you do when the woman who should nurture and support you is the source of your pain? Let me be clear: All mothers make mistakes. God knows I’ve made my fair share! But mistakes…
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How to Set Biblical Boundaries with Difficult People

We all have (at least) one toxic person in our lives. You know, the one who presses your buttons and leaves you feeling like you’re the problem. Maybe it’s your sister in law who has certain ideas of how you’re to behave. When you don’t…
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How to Hug a Porcupine - 3 Steps to Loving Difficult People

Difficult people are all around us. Whether it’s an abrasive coworker, narcissistic boss, or toxic mother, all you need do is throw a stone and you will likely encounter someone difficult. These types of people remind me of porcupines. For…
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How To Keep Family Members From Stealing Your Joy

How to Keep Family Members From Stealing Your Joy You’re not responsible for someone else’s behavior. That was an eye opening revelation for me 20 years ago. In the past I would think that I could control someone else feelings and…
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How Not to Care What People Think

I have met two types of people in my years as a coach: Those who let their fears hold them back and they live a life of frustration. Those who pretend they don’t care what others think and live a life of lies. Neither…
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What To Do When Someone Does You Wrong

Have you ever been let down by someone? I mean royally hurt by the very person you thought was your ride or die.   No one gets through life without being let down. Sometimes we’re unintentionally hurt by the mistakes…
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How To Set Boundaries With a Toxic Mother

As a counselor and coach, I’ve see women negatively affected by toxic mothers in my practice more than any other hurdle they encounter in life. And nearly every time, I witness these women expecting their bad mothers to miraculously…